Fear of Being Alone: After one relationship, the next follows. If you immediately jump into a partnership after the separation, you do relationship hopping. The main thing is you don’t want yourself alone?
Separations have to be processed, and it makes perfect sense to be single for a while after a love off, to come to yourself, and enjoy the newly gained freedom. But some people literally jump from one relationship to the next. This is called relationship hopping. What is it all about?
Relationship hopping: Escape from being alone
30-year-olds have more relationships today than their grandparents have in their entire lives. Today’s relationship biographies are changing, and the reasons for separating have become more complex. This is not least due to the fact that romantic love became the basis of couple relationships. If love is gone or if you think you have lost it, the separation takes place.
Some people fall in love and constantly separate. You jump from one relationship to the next. Their motto seems to be: The main thing, not alone! In a relationship, they feel lifted at first and can escape being alone. But at some point, this partnership also comes to an end, and the next must come and do it as quickly as possible!
Fear of being alone
People who do relationship hopping are unable to bear being alone, cannot do anything with themselves and do not feel perfect as a single person. They also find it easier to comfort themselves with the next partner over the pain of separation than to have to go through it alone. After all, the next partner could be real love forever and ever. Sometimes that may be true. But very often, problems are dragged off with quick partner changes. After all, there is not much time left to think about his own mistakes in the last relationship. But only those who know their mistakes can work on them, and that is why in the new relationship, the old dramas start again quickly. Relationship hoppers always hope for a happy ending without a concrete idea of how they could achieve it.
Love or dependence?
Some relationship hoppers make mistakes love for dependency. They think they have finally found the right partner and thus the great love, but do not notice that they are addicted to relationships. Therefore, they sometimes enter into relationships that are not good for them and remain in unhappy partnerships until the separation is inevitable.
Relationship hopping: The constant search for the perfect partner
The feeling of falling in love is wonderful! We are completely different people and feel really intoxicated by the partner. There is even some truth to this because being in love is a state of happiness similar to that of drug intoxication. But many relationship hoppers believe “that’s it” when the hyperactive butterflies say goodbye. They overlook the fact that deeper and calmer feelings are now emerging. But unfortunately, they don’t get that far, because they are already looking for the next kick, and that can only go wrong because the poor butterflies cannot constantly flutter at full speed. Then there is the inevitable change of partner. And the relationship carousel keeps turning.