Distance Relationship: Distance relationships are difficult to maintain. I know this from my own experience. But I also know that it is not impossible, and that true love is patient, and its reward, at the end of so much waiting, is sweet as honey.
Distance Relationship: The secrets to a distance relationship
If you’re going through this difficult ordeal of maintaining – and sustaining – a loving relationship from a distance, keep my advice in mind. They helped me enormously to realize that sometimes it is necessary to listen to the heart, because it does not know the reasons.
1) Make things clear from the start
If you are going to live away from each other for a while, take into account working hours, the difference in the time use of each country, etc. Agree on days and times when you will meet by video call, or the dates when you have a vacation for a potential meeting.
2) Use creativity
A virtual meeting does not have to be boring. You can program it from different places, to change the view, or you can use your imagination to share with your partner as much as possible.
I remember my husband connecting at dinner time in New York, setting the camera to focus on the table. So, while we had dinner, we talked; It was like dining together. Other times, I recorded funny videos to tell him about my days, and many other times, we listened to music “together.”
3) Make an effort to get together
Many times, the hustle and bustle of a new life away from home makes one forget something so basic and essential, like telling the other how much you love him. Seeing each other more often is a way to build love, and you should take the trouble to carefully plan your next time to get together. This will be the best way to feed love.
4) Keep making plans
Don’t let pessimism win the battle. Do not be discouraged! Love can do everything, and soon they will be together again. Don’t stop making long-term plans. Talk about those wonderful children you will have, and talk about your dream home. Join in a common project, and you will feel more committed than ever.
5) Find new things to talk about
Most couples in such a distance relationship will go through phases where they strive to find stuff to discuss, apart from how their day was. When these periods hit, put a bit more effort into discovering new and fresh things to talk about.
6) Surprise your partner
Everyone likes receiving a gift, flowers, letters in the mail. Every so often, go the extra mile and do something special to treat your partner feels loved and admired.
7) Turn a deaf ear
Bottom line: Don’t listen to negative comments from others about your partner. Do you know the number of times my husband and I face hurtful comments about our distance relationship? Don’t listen to those people who try to make the red thread that unites them invisible by making jokes in bad taste.
